Day 4 (Thursday the 9th) of our wedding week was hard. I got the phone call I dreaded for the past year. My grandfather (Boo Y. Pak) passed away.
There were so many emotions going through my head and heart this day. My gut telling me that I had to postpone our wedding. I couldn’t wrap my head around my “wedding to-do list” and I couldn’t imagine going through this day with my heart mourning. But with the support of my friends and family, I (by the grace of God) got through it.
I’m not going to sit here, lie and tell you guys that Yug & I have the best relationship. We’ve been together for 6 years. So by now, we are definitely comfortable with each other to the point where we say things (comfortably without thinking twice), we bicker (knowing that tomorrow is another day so let’s bang it out now), we stay angry & bitter with each other till 1 of us caves in, we comfortably show each other the uglies of ourselves.
So the days leading up to the wedding were really ugly. We even got to the point where we almost didn’t go through with the wedding. I was at a point where I didn’t mind losing all of our deposits to cancel the wedding.
So my grandfather Boo passing was a blessing in disguise. His passing slowed me down. I was getting so caught up in the “are my programs perfect?”, “are my seating cards perfectly aligned?”, “why isn’t my relationship with Yug perfect”, “my wedding has to be perfect!”.
Everyone commented about how my grandfather Boo’s passing was such horrible timing but I’m still quite amazed by how perfect his timing was.
(I’m sorry to offend anyone with the following but this rings so hard in my heart that I HAVE to share.)
<< Ecclesiastes 3 >>
A Time for Everything
1There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven—
2A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
3A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
5A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
6A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
8A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.
9What profit is there to the worker from that in which he toils?
10I have seen the task which God has given the sons of men with which to occupy themselves.
My grandfather Boo passed away on the Thursday (the 9th) before our wedding. So we were able to scurry and prepare his funeral ceremony on Friday (the 10th) and his burial on Saturday (the 11th) morning. He made sure to leave me 12/12/10. My heart still aches knowing that I couldn’t share this day with him. But I am ever so thankful that he didn’t have to suffer with illness and his passing was peaceful.