A friend recommended a book for married couples and I think it’s been a great read so far! Basically, the book talks about how we are all shaped by the way we felt love and comfort as younger children. Your home, your parents and environment are a huge part of the way you deal with problems and how you feel relief.
Only about $10 at Amazon!
Even if you have the perfect marriage (which is how common??), this book would be a great way to find out who your spouse was as a child, and how you can use their past to love them more deeply. I found it to be interesting to find out that I’m a “Vacillator” type of person, and I long for deep connections with people. A lot of the ways they describe my personality is very true and sometimes it’s depressing because you’re reading about all these flaws in yourself! But again, it does feel good to know that there are others like you and how they are able to give you advice in expressing yourself. (Vacillators should try to remember to be sad, not mad because we’re prone to outrage instead of feeling sad….. so true!)
There’s a workbook in the back and I think it would be a great read for you and your spouse! I’m not really a type of person that reads these types of books, but this was very easy to read and follow. If you are always fighting and encountering “road blocks,” why not give it a shot for only $10??